Remember those days when you scored 8 out of 10 in Mathematics, and still got a mocking look from your fellow class mate who scored a 10? Back home, the comparison never stopped with your dad’s best friend’s children. Why did they always score higher, and you always had to settle with a little less? You used to ride a bicycle, and got really envious when the bad guys got their new, screeching Yamahas and grunting Splendors. Eating in school canteen was largely dependent on pocket money. Having a bun-samosa was not a big deal, unless you had a bottle of coke in the other hand. And yes, a can of coke would put you in elite category. Certainly!
You matured soon with ever increasing demands, ranging from more sessional marks during engineering days, to a nice gaudy cell phone. You always wanted a better girl/boy friend. You became brand conscious too! Nikes and Adidas were the only good brands that made comfortable shoes; all others were ruled out. Then were jobs, which largely focused on salaries and type of profiles, of course. When it came to vehicles, a four wheeler was a must, preferably a sedan with a nice music system. Alloy wheels would garnish the ride. Cell phones would mean either corporate hyped Blackberries or fun-centric Apple iPhones. Sipping a coffee at Barista became a daily activity. Sneaking in others lives became easy through Facebook. They should have named it Sneakbook actually. Well, it never stopped!!
The unexplained word here is ‘it’. But what is this ‘it’?
Here, ‘it’ refers to relativity, which drives our egos. This drive helps us create magic. This magic is commonly known as happiness. And with happiness comes life!!
Right from our early childhood days, to our friend circle, to working in multinationals, and to what not, relativity plays an vital role in our survival. It is the key to a better life. Be it school, college, work, or anything else; relativity always finds a place somewhere.
Now, let’s try to give this another outlook. Imagine a day when you wake up with a certain set of qualities, talking in all aspects. Let’s map it with another fictional person whom you know well; can be anyone. Both of you have same set of qualifications, jobs, money in accounts, salaries, etc. Also to add, the people you know have exactly the same opinion/feeling for you both. You have exactly the same belongings, including the level of sadness (if any), and even same potential for a task. In short, happiness parameter is same in both of you individuals. With this scenario, how will life look like?
Confused? You shouldn’t be. Life will look exactly the same, till the point one of you decides to better something in your life. It may be your earning capacity, your relations with another person you know, maybe even changing your car and making it look better than the other one, etc. It is there where you will realize the pinch of added happiness. So, what was it that created this little bit of disparity? It is relativity. This example should not be confused with jealousy, which may force an individual to harm the other person’s hard earned happiness by unethical/unacceptable means.
A proper mix of all above factors shapes up your life. Whatever you want in life can be achieved with a proper proportion of all these three interdependent parameters, namely relativity, ego and happiness. And any misbalance here can lead to little less happiness! If it’s too low, we call it being sad!
The need to grow, the need to be better, the need to be more powerful and successful defines life. Life always thrives to grow. It may come in many forms. And we chose these forms. The day life becomes non-relative, it will die! You can’t be content with what you have! That’s the thumb rule of life. Bitter, but true.
Happy reading.
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